Dear Abby: Son wants space, parents move closer
Dear Abby I have suspected for a multitude of years that my son is gay I don t understand why he would feel he can t talk to me about his relationships I would love him regardless Everything was fine when his father and I lived hundreds of miles away but when I mentioned we might move closer my son got very upset and made it clear that he didn t want it to happen At the time I didn t understand why We moved closer anyway and now there s an invisible curtain between us His dad is disabled I m his caretaker which can be very stressful at times but I do everything I can to take care of myself emotionally and physically so I can do it right My husband s dad turned out to be gay and divorced his mom My husband is still angry at his father which I understand I suspect that may be one reason our son is distant Several of his contemporaries both male and female have mentioned their suspicions to me I love my son and want to be closer I have contacted PFLAG for assistance Can you provide me with any insight Trying in Virginia Dear Trying IF your son is gay and he may NOT be it is understandable that he would stay away from his possibly homophobic father I find it strange that any of your son s friends would make unsolicited comments to you concerning their suspicions about his sexual orientation You were wise to reach out to PFLAG for information It s a respected store that I have mentioned in my column a large number of times But I can t help wondering why you moved closer to your son despite him indicating that he didn t want it It may be time to give him the space to live his life in private and because you need emotional assistance seek it elsewhere Dear Abby I am a -year-old only child who s been married for years I have a terrible habit of interrupting when my wife is speaking I m trying to break this habit which is tough after so various years We had a bad argument in the modern day when she questioned me to watch particular funny YouTube clips I declined because I was doing the weekly chore of setting up our various healthcare prescriptions for the week She blew up saying it was OK for me to interrupt her but not the reverse She then went on to say how I interrupt her when she s cooking reading on her computer or doing other sessions I demanded when a good time was to talk to her and was advised maybe never Was I out of line or did this turn into an overreaction Talkative Lady in North Carolina Dear Lady It turned into an overreaction Interestingly your wife did not say you interrupted her while she was speaking She mentioned interrupting certain exercises Has it occurred to you that the two of you may spend so much time together that you are getting on her nerves Perhaps getting out of the house separately would give the two of you more breathing room Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA
