Dear Abby: Face it, your fiance is a lout

Dear Abby I am a -year-old divorcee I am at this time dating a Danish man and have been for a year He petitioned me to marry him several months ago and I noted yes He wants me and my daughter to move to Denmark My daughter is and high-functioning autistic but she still requirements me to help with executive functions Several months ago I lost my second job I got behind on my rent and was evicted My daughter and I had no place to go and went to live with a friend in another state When I demanded my fiance if he could please help me a little he refused and became angry saying he didn t want to be a sugar daddy He tells me often how much he makes and what he has in the bank I advised him I wasn t asking for jewelry or fancy clothes just so we wouldn t lose our home He advised me to ask my ex-husband for the money Because he refused my daughter and I were evicted from our home I eventually unveiled a second job but the damage had been done At the beginning of our relationship I was up-front about my daughter the majority likely needing to live with us and demanded if it was a deal-breaker He noted no Now he wants her to get out as soon as manageable in a foreign country where she doesn t know the language and has her issues He also narrated me I couldn t keep my cat When I expressed how this made me feel he became angry and recounted me we were through and he wasn t going to help me I am not the kind of person who would take advantage of anyone I have invariably worked hard I feel that family should help each other and because we are engaged our problems should be shared I don t know what to do about our relationship now My daughter is also hurt that he doesn t want her to be with us He has revealed if she stayed he would get his own apartment Advice Going Abroad in Maryland Dear Going How countless red flags do you need Your fiance is tight with money even when he knows you are drowning He has no intention of living under the same roof with your daughter who may be unable to adjust to that new society Understand that if you move to Denmark he isn t going to change This is who he is For your daughter s sake and your own end the engagement This is not the kind of husband you need Dear Abby There s a boy in a grade above me When he gets mad that a girl doesn t like him or his friend he slut-shames them and calls them whores Girls in my grade have tried to shake it off but it won t stop We don t want to resort to violence but we might have to What should we do At Our Wit s End Dear Wit s End Violence is never the answer The girls who have been slut-shamed should tell their parents what has been going on and then inform the teachers and the administrators of your school In the good old days that boy s mouth would have been washed out with soap Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA